The Over Exaggeration of Patriarchy and Feminism’s Fall.

I do want to warn my audience beforehand that this is a topic that tackles first world feminism and the ideas that are often tossed about within it. It’s been a huge topic on my mind and I want to tackle it with my thoughts. I want to also note that my views do not stem because of my male gender or “privilege”. But the observations and opinions I’ve developed from what Feminism has shown.

Feminism is a huge topic now with equality. Women in history has been through undoubtedly tough situations. From being bargaining chips for royalty, to being second class humans. In the past, women were not equal as humans but rather an attachment. That has quickly changed with the new knowledge and ideas we accumulate as humans. As we progressively identify the strengths of both genders and welcome the full expression of it.

However, it’s taken a sharp decline since major media has become more and more prevalent in our society. The vocal masses are caught between “Equality for all genders”, “Equality for all but straight, white men”,  and the notorious “Man-hating cults”.  All these ideas and stereotypes have become so prominent between the views of people. We have so many issues between people’s individual views and how it applies to Feminism, we come to find the most simple of things in life to be “oppressive” to women.

Let’s take a good look into the “Manspreading” situation on the public transportation. Women have come to find that the way a man sits is oppressing women in some way.

Women come to find that how a man “Spreads eagle” so insulting and rude. However, we are easy to brush away the times when we find women doing things even worse.

We are so quick to blame men for so many issues. Nit picking at the little things that men do, or fail to do and shame them for it. Which a lot of feminism has become lately. We have women accusing ALL men for being patriarchal scum. From the common tweeting feminist, to bigger names who just cringe at the idea of men.

“All men are rapists and that’s all they are” — Marilyn French, Authoress; (later, advisoress to Al Gore’s Presidential Campaign.)

“To call a man an animal is to flatter him; he’s a machine, a walking dildo.” — Valerie Solanas, Authoress of the SCUM Manifesto (SCUM stands for Society for Cutting Up Men)

“If life is to survive on this planet, there must be a decontamination of the Earth. I think this will be accompanied by an evolutionary process that will result in a drastic reduction of the population of males.” –Mary Daly, former Professor at Boston College, 2001.

These quotes here show the degradation of feminism. Where misandry comes into play. Where women claim these outrageous things about men. And unfortunately, get a vocal group to support such claims. Do we not realize that these man hating voices hinder the support of gender equality? Or are they just so ignorant or burnt with some past pain to even make such broad claims?

I never have once heard from another man that we should kill the women in the world. It’s a ridiculous to even consider removing an essential part of human beings to bring forth a new generation of equality and acceptance. We can never achieve tolerance through intolerance!

Let’s move onto another example. Anita Sarkeesian. A very vocal feminist who holds her opinions upon women in media. Which is making news almost every month somehow. Her voice is backed by who knows how many. But she makes outlandish claims and even makes claims that SUPPORT Patriarchy.

Lets take a look into Anita’s discussion in the “All About Women (2015)” and her input. From her words, she tries to explain to women on how to be a feminist, and what does and doesn’t work. But does she not realize what her words tackle against? She is vocally expressing patriarchy.

“More and more, I hear variations on this idea that anything that any woman personally chooses to do is a feminist act, this attitude is often referred to as “choice feminism”. Choice feminism posits that each individual woman determines what is empowering for herself, which might sound good on the surface but this concept risks obscuring the bigger picture and larger, fundamental goals of the movement by focusing on individual women and a very narrow, individual notion of “empowerment”. It erases the reality that some choices that women make have an enormous negative impact on other women’s lives.

It is not enough to feel personally empowered or be personally successful within the oppressive framework of the current system. Even if an individual woman can make patriarchy work for her, it’s still a losing game for the rest of the women on this planet. The fact of the matter is that some choices have ramifications beyond ourselves and reinforce harmful patriarchal ideas about women as a group and about women’s bodies in our wider shared culture.”

This quote here speaks about a woman’s choice to choose what she feels right for her. What she feels oppressed, and empowered by. Patriarchy would not support that individual thought for the woman. Individual Feminism, or individual equality is a GOOD THING! It’s a great right we have as human beings to choose what we feel is best for ourselves. A woman does not need to live in patriarchy if she chooses to do what she wants.

Many things that Anita Sarkeesian is known to speak against a woman’s choice to work in sex work environments. Where she will even inadvertently slut shame women for making choices to use their feminine sexuality to get ahead in life. Claiming that they are holding women back in equality. Shouldn’t we embrace a woman’s choice to go into any career she wishes? Anita is painting portraits that the female body is shameful and should be covered up. And a lot of people agree with this mind set.

I’m impressed that we are so quick to get offended by things that even promote Freedom of Expression. Where we have people apologizing for their positive notes on the expression of sexuality and human body. The famous #Shirtgate issue is just one of the many issues feminism has fallen into. Where a man wears a shirt with plenty of scantily dressed women is brought to tears because people are so offended by a woman’s body. Which, mind you. The shirt was made BY A WOMAN!

We should not censor art for the extreme political views of anyone. Art is a means of expression, and things where a woman wants to express her mind on the human body shouldn’t be taken offensively.

Feminism has fallen greatly from it’s first generation forthcoming. We have people who unknowingly support patriarchal views, and others who absolutely want to subject men. What happened to the equality aspect for all genders? This is why I try to convince all my friends to be human rights activists or egalitarians. For the modern Feminism has become a venomous cess pit of mixed views in the popular culture. We have examples of true work such as the ongoing effort to let women drive. But is easily shadowed by the common nonsense that is now American Feminism.

These are just my thoughts on the matter. Feminism needs a huge revamp right now because it’s current condition is more problematic, than helpful. We’ll never see proper equality if we have these confused opinions on what a woman should find empowering and oppressive. We need people to see the common sense in things, and fix what is broken. Not what isn’t broken.

If we wish to see men and women stand together and hold equal opportunities. We will need to stop having the “Us versus them” mind set. Feminists needs to see men just as equal to themselves. Not as public enemy number one. For there will never be a proper way to equality if we pretend there’s a gender war.